It’s only a couple of days until October ends and November begins, and again I am thinking where did the month go!? I suppose it’s a good thing that time seems to go by quickly nowadays, as they do say that time flies when you’re having fun. I think that’s true. 🙂 However, not all days recently have been pleasant, but there’s been an overall positive vibe that I’ve been trying to maintain more strongly this month, and I think it has worked out well.
I set some goals beginning of October, and have analysed how I did with those over the past month. Overall, I’m pretty pleased! Since I want to increase my positive thinking, mindfulness and self-awareness, I’ve also listed below the positive and happy occurrences during October until today. Note to self: bright coloured pens are great for note-taking and I should order more of those!
What were the goals for October?
Earlier this month, I set three goals for myself based on the things I’ve been struggling with the most in terms of healthy everyday routines and budgeting. These were my three goals:
No everyday Deliveroo (preferably max twice a week)
No everyday Uber (preferably max twice a week)
No alcoholic drinks for more than 2 days a week
Read more about the goals, as well as some important background info on why I’ve been struggling with these routines for a couple of years now, in my earlier blog post here.
The beginning of the month was hard. I was tired all the time and not feeling very well mentally. It was easy to convince myself of excuses to take Uber to work and/or back home and order food on Deliveroo. The beginning of the month, in terms of these two goals, was a fail. However, with alcohol, things have been looking up due to participating in Sober October.
1. No everyday Deliveroo
Just before mid-October, I realised that I didn’t have a lot of money left, and to avoid transferring from my savings (again), I’d have to do better. After all, saving money is the number one thing that I am trying to work towards so I can move to a new flat sometime beginning of next year. When, exactly, depends on how much and how fast I save!
From mid-month until end of October, I haven’t ordered anything via Deliveroo. 💪 I’ve been cooking at home, and when I’ve not done that, I’ve bought cheap microwaveable meals, porridge sachels or easy lunches and dinners like sandwiches and ready-made pasta salads from the grocery store. Sounds basic, but it’s a big improvement compared to going out to eat and ordering takeout.
I wrote about my earlier cooking wins and learnings here, but to summarise, I feel super proud of myself for tackling the cooking-at-home challenge. It’s been pretty basic, using frozen vegetables and fish fingers mostly, for now. I am not yet comfortable with cooking, and it does still cause anxiety, but I’m looking forward to widening my experiences and learning more.
Bottom line: I’ve met my goal. Additionally, I’ve built the beginnings of a healthier routine with food, and I feel positive about learning more and developing my cooking skills. 😊
2. No everyday Uber
Commuting to work is such a pain in the butt, especially now that the days grow shorter and colder towards winter. There’s been an increasing number of delays and interruptions with my buses, trains and the Underground. People crowding in there to the point that I am shoulder-to-shoulder with someone constantly, feeling anxious and in a bad mood. I’ve got coffee thrown at me a couple of times too.
It’s been very difficult to orient my mind towards thinking positive about commuting via public transport. I’ve done better and have definitely used less Uber, but I feel like I haven’t 100% met this goal. I’ve been trying, though, and as my boyfriend would probably say, I have made progress, have learned, and can use my learnings to create an even better routine next month.
There are a few things that have definitely helped me that I am continuing with during November as well. One thing is to try to come up with positive aspects of the journey, such as taking a coffee with me from home so I have something warm and delicious to enjoy during the commute.
Or, if I look around a little bit more while I walk or wait around for the train or bus, I might spot something pretty that I can take a photo of. I might even catch some sunshine on the way to work, which would not be possible if I sat in an Uber car all the way there.
Bottom line: I’ve only partly met my goal, however, I feel positive that I can do even better next month. I am excited to find more and more positive little things I can add to the pile to start recognising that the commute is not THAT bad, after all. 👍
3. No alcoholic drinks
I’ve struggled with my alcohol intake in the past, but recently I’ve been much better. My go-to rule is “don’t drink alcohol on more than 2 days per week”. Due to having a full-time job, I’ve also had to reduce how much I drink on those two days, otherwise, I’ll feel rubbish at work the next day. My general rule within the rule is no more than one glass of wine in a day, and always with food.
I’ve met this goal 100%, not only due to being more and more used to the 2-days rule but because I decided to participate in Sober October! It’s one of those “dry” months during which you don’t drink any alcohol. It went well most of the month, although, towards the end of October, I caved in and had some wine and a couple of bottles of cider. 🙄
I’m not worried about this at all, or guilty, as I succeeded in this goal overall. I have noticed an improvement in both mood, tiredness levels, and alertness at work!
Bottom line: Goal 100% met! As I got used to drinking less, I feel confident that I can keep to my 2 days a week next month. I think I could even up the goal in November and set the allowance to one day per week. 😀
List of positive and happy things from October
Like me, you probably sometimes forget to actively appreciate or don’t notice at all, all the good things that you come across in your day. That’s normal. I’d love to start capturing these on a regular basis though, and have been doing so during October!
From now on, I will do this every month. Recapping what has gone well is my new way of trying to increase active positive thinking, leaving the negative bits behind as much as possible. I hope that you will find this inspiring for yourself as well if you’re struggling with finding the positives in your day-to-day.
10 positive and happy things from October:
My blog was born on the 2nd of October, 2019! It hasn’t even been a full month yet, but I’m so so so so so happy that I finally got the courage to do it. Since I started blogging I’ve felt joy, excitement, happiness and felt like I can use my creativeness on something that matters. I hope I can help other people with my website.
I joined Twitter not long after starting my blog. I really enjoy connecting with other bloggers and generally people that I’ve come across on there that are a pleasure to interact with and follow. I’m enjoying it! You guys on Twitter have been super helpful to a newbie blogger – thank you! 🥰
Let’s connect on Twitter if we haven’t yet – my handle is @GannaMori.
I re-joined Instagram. Now, this has been a challenge. I used to be on Insta but got massive anxiety from it and, one could say, Instagram burn-out. I now re-joined, and I’m trying to keep the earlier learnings in mind and take it easy on there. That’s why I might not post as often as people normally do, and it grows slowly, but I enjoy it a lot so far and haven’t had any anxiety yet. 🙂
Let’s connect on Instagram too! Find me here.
I attended a baby shower and got through it with minimal anxiety. It was a pleasant experience, despite a few instances where I didn’t know what to say and reverted back to my usual wall-flowerish habits. I don’t like that about myself and I feel very self-conscious. Despite that, everything went well and I’m proud of myself for attending.
I established a cooking routine! I talked about it above as it related to my October goals. I am so happy to know that I am capable of not being completely inept at organising my meals in a healthier way. 😄 This will work towards future months too, and improve!
I had ice cream in my freezer for the first time in years, and it was delicious. It was mint-chocolate ice cream. 🍨
I got positive feedback at work from the boss about something I did for the first time and found initially very challenging – I didn’t believe in myself at first, but it turned out well. I got positive feedback from someone I manage, saying they have never felt as supported in any of their previous roles, as they did now. I almost cried! 💜
I cleaned the showerhead and it’s not shooting water uncomfortably in every direction anymore. This results in one less thing to feel anxious about when it’s time to shower.
I took an actual BATH (no bubbles) for the first time in what must be about 7 years. I ended up panicking but there was a brief moment of pleasure and even joy, at the beginning. I’m proud of myself.
What were some of your positive bits from October? Did you have any goals – anything you found challenging? I’d love to hear about it! 😊